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Only Child on quality versus quantity of life

Only Child  contemplates quality vs quantity of life

Only Child contemplates quality vs quantity of life

Yesterday I attended the funeral service for the mother of a friend. The mother was in her late 80s and for the past 10 years had suffered from dementia. Her quality of life was not good. My friend had to put her in a nursing home eight years ago but she spent a good part of her days with her mother.

It got me thinking of quality versus quantity of life. For those of you who have been following this blog you may remember that my parents did not live to a ripe old age. My dad died of brain cancer at 66 when I was 16 and my mom died of a sudden brain aneurysm at age 63 when I was 22. Here we have my dad suffering from some form of cancer off and on for six years before he died. He was not in a good place (and I don’t mean the hospital) in the last few months. Mom, on the other hand, had a few headaches, then the aneurysm and despite surgery, she died five days later.

Two of my maternal uncles and a first cousin once removed (I hate that ancestry categorization – sounds like they are getting kicked out of the family) lived into their 90s. When the cousin died at 90, she was blind, had dementia and a bad heart. One uncle, my godfather, died at the same age. He had dementia and heart problems. The other uncle, not a blood relative, died at age 98 and was healthy – mind and body – almost up to when he died.

My paternal grandfather died in his early 70s the same year my parents were married – so before I was born. My paternal grandma died in her mid-80s of a heart attack. She still had all her mental facilities and was able to get around okay.

That’s my history. But I’ve seen a lot of other suffering from illnesses and from my observations I truly believe that quality of life trumps quantity. If your mind is gone; if your body is filled with sickness that will kill you, is there a point in carrying on?

However, having said that I believe it is up to the individual to decide if they want to end their life sooner than later if they are terminally ill (of mind and/or body). It is not up to God’s will (and how often has that term been mis-used – from the family of terminally ill people praying for a miracle, to if the person dies well, they say, it was just God’s will.)

Excuse me. It is not God’s life but yours, mine – the person who is terminally will. If God gave us free will then we should have the right, if terminally ill, to decide if we want to die sooner than later. Quality over quantity.

And that’s where the problem arises.

Canada now has given the okay to assisted suicide, although the details have to be worked out. I have a problem with that, not because it will still be up to the dying person to decide, but because another person has to get involved. For every other medical procedure and the like I believe medical doctors have to go by the letter of the law – whatever their beliefs. But not here. I think they should be allowed to go by their conscience as long as they recommend a doctor who will assist in suicide. And not interfere with the dying person’s choice.

The other problem is often a person is too sick to decide and unfortunately hasn’t made a living will. So the family members try to impose what they want and believe to be right, not necessarily what the dying person wants. And not all family members agree.

So, it is a dilemma. Maybe we should have had it built into our being that if and when we become terminally ill, we just die right away.

Of course, some won’t make it that far because of other people’s actions, from vehicle crashes to plane crashes like the German plane crashing over France because of the co-pilot’s deliberate actions.

Perhaps the only thing to do is carpe diem – something I struggle with because of all the problems in my life – and I don’t mean just health-related.

What do you think?

 

Cheers.

Sharon A. Crawford

Only Child Writes

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Only Child on flooding and other extreme weather

Only Child  contemplates the weather and its ramifications

Only Child contemplates the weather and its ramifications

You know what the late great John Lennon wrote and sang about the rains coming and people running and hiding. It sure applies to all the rain and flooding we have been getting this year and it doesn’t matter where you live in the world- rain and flooding are the new norm. Even parts of southern California got flooded out this past weekend. In southern Ontario, Canada, the city of Burlington got flooded badly. The city’s mayor was interviewed this morning on The Weather Network and flooding and he said his house got about five feet of rain and some of it got into his main floor. For videos on this flooding mess and interview with the mayor go to

http://www.theweathernetwork.com/news/articles/flash-flooding-sweeps-burlington-more-storm-chance-tuesday/33328

 

There is nowhere to run and hide

 

Why is this happening now? There are many theories and I’ve mentioned this briefly before. I am convinced that whichever religious group predicted the big flood to end the world in October 2012 have something right – they just got the date wrong. But it is coming…soon.

I was discussing this recently with a friend who is a born again Christian/Catholic, so you can guess how she went on about it.

Actually, we are in agreement about a lot of things with this flood business. We agree the end of the world is coming soon, just not all the details. She talked about The Rapture and how the good people will be swept up in it and into heaven.

I don’t think there will be any Rapture. Why? Because the floods, hurricanes, etc. are too widespread and hurting (sometimes killing) good as well as bad people. At this rate, there may not be many or any “good” people left.

And just what constitutes a “good person” these days (from God’s point of view)?

Whats behind all this? It is my opinion (and this is just me) that either all these extreme weather conditions are caused by God or at least he has a hand in them (and global warning has something to do with it) OR as a few of my church-going friends say when I blame God for something – “God is too busy with other things to be bothered with our concerns.”

They may be right. I mean if we are praying to be spared from so many of these extreme weather conditions and that doesn’t happen, then God is busy with other things. Maybe these “other things” are his agenda. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again – God gave us all free will. What if he doesn’t like what we are doing with that free will and he is acting accordingly?

I’m just saying. And as posted before, there is no such person as Mother Nature. Every time I hear that euphemism I cringe.

That’s my opinion, anyway.

Cheers.

Sharon A. Crawford

Only Child Writes

 

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